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Touching is a very blurred confused subject. People either think touching is something bad and reject it or they don’t know how to do it the right way so they don’t. And everyone looks at touching as something sexual and not something you can do with out having that sexual connection. Granted that is one part of touching but I feel that’s the biggest part towards the end. Touching starts out as casual touching giving pounds out and rubbing against someone walking by them. Then it leads to hugging and most sensual touching and massaging and feeling good. Then that is where touching stops being pleasurable and starts feeling sexual and erotic. And that’s how I look at it as a pyramid where sexual erotic touching is at the top and you can get there by starting from the most causal of touching that can be very sexual touching.

The culture as a whole is hugely based on alienation distracting our self from doing the things we have to do with the things we want to do. I have been distracting myself from doing the first snowball paper and this one as well, I distracted my self more from the first one not as much as this one. We all have our own agenda and sometimes we can get away with doing things we want to do all day and some times we can’t. This all goes back to touching some times all we want is a simple massage that will get a few kinks in my back out and relive some of our stress, but we can’t because we would have to go and pay for it because it’s weird to ask your roommate to give you a massage. I think the word massage sounds to sexual. That I bet is another big reason massage is linked to sex all of the time. Everyone wants to be touched, and if they say they don’t there lying and I know it. it feels good to be touched and it feels even better when you have previously connected to the person touching with you before. If my arm hurt from pitching and I need someone to rub it I’m not going to get some bimbo girl to rub it she has no idea what’s going on and what to do. I want another pitcher that has felt my pain in my arm and knows exactly where I’m coming from and how to fix it. but if I want to be sexually pleased I’m not going to as the same guy that helped me out with my arm nor am I going to ask the bimbo. I’m going to ask my girlfriend that knows what I want, when I want it. If I want a massage or anything of that matter she is going to know what to do and how to do it.

Another thing about touching that isn’t really touching it is the touching with out touching, touching. When you are with someone and you both are trying to touch and be with one another but you can tell that something in the air is wrong and her or his body language is not good and not enjoying the situation you need to back off. Body language will tell you everything you need to know about anything. If the girl is sitting down stiff on the bed she can either be nervous and not feeling the situation at all. So there is no way you should jump on top of her and start going 100 miles per hour. You should take it slow feel her out and if she reacted in a good way and starts loosening up you can keep going but always keep in mind you might have to step on the brake at anytime. But if she continues to be a stiff board you should stop change the subject and do something else because the body language and messages she is sending say I don’t want to do this at all. That leads to another thing that isn’t about touching and more of the talking and conversing topic. It has a lot to do with body language and how and when to talk to a person and why it might be a good time to use this style of conversation or this style of conversation.
Conversation is the biggest part of our world. With our words, languages, and hand movements the world would have no feeling and be completely round lifeless nothing. Conversation can give life to anything, it is the sole back bone to the American culture and we don’t even know how to do it the correct way. That must mean something that we can base a nation on one thing, and not even do it the right way. When people talk there are to ways you can speak; selfish and generous. Everyone is a selfish talker and then don’t even know it, it is the easiest out of the two and the reason you are a selfish talker is we have all said at one point in our lives, “I feel.. I want… I can’t…” people like to talk about themselves because it’s the easiest you know your self and all you have to do is just talk about yourself. But selfish conversations don’t work, if you have to people talking about themselves they don’t hear each other and no progress in there relationship grows because they didn’t hear a word they just said. But if you have a selfish talker and a generous talker you can grow into a deeper conversation then the two selfish talkers but nothing as close to two generous talkers. Being a generous talker isn’t really talking as much as it is listening and understanding instead of just hearing and continuing. Being a generous talker you can feel for the other person and put them on the same level as you and become an equal and grow from one another. A generous talker uses body language and simple ‘uh huh… yeah... that’s interesting…” another tactic a generous talker uses is repeating what the person just said and forming it as a question. “Person A: I was walking to the store and I saw this girl get robbed… Person B: how did you feel when the girl was robbed?” Person A was the self talker and he was telling a story about his walk to the store. Person B was the generous talker asking questions about previous topic that would continue the conversation to a new topic, about people being robbed, how Person A felt about that situation and how he would try and change things so people would not get robbed. All because of the one question from generous talking Person A they already have many things to talk about. If everyone once and a while tried the be generous talkers the world would be a better more interesting place to live in.